Getting Into Others Shoes

Getting into others shoes is the greatest help which we do to ourselves. It simply means seeing things from others end instead of what we are used to i.e. seeing from our end. In most cases, we do no harm to others by not doing this(unless one is psycho :P) but we harm ourselves. It is easier said than done. Getting to know others is a tough job and what's more tough is- continue doing it with various people in various circumstances. I consider writing this article a success, if anyone after reading this, makes an attempt to get into others shoes before she/he reacts. Sometimes viewpoint change might connect dots or it gives us a whole-new solution to the old problem or it just finds us alternatives and adjustments.

Here are some cases in which we generally tend to opinionize ourselves without checking on others end: 

   We only listen what the winners have to say: For example,  teachers always ask toppers to come and explain their math on board. Rest all are made to replicate/follow blindly. All those toppers who are temporary winners never knew how to respond once their IIT dream flight crashes. But the so called permanent failure in schools whose got tons of scoldings will fare well in the later life as they are already aware of defeats, insults and bitter parts of life. They grow up knowing the reality and have more chances of becoming real life winners. A topper needs a loser because success is not permanent and failure is not the end. If only the failure was made to tell how she/he feels inside during the tough times , a topper would understand how it feels to be lagging behind and still continue the race. 

    We only encourage hypocrite and sop politics : All opposition parties agitate on levying of octroi tax on petrol and increased excise taxes on liquor often end up continuing the same for running their govts when elected because the reality is taxes are the only source of income for running our governments in most uncertain times (covid19). We are not a manufacturing hub. We only export raw materials without value addition. We lack supply chain infrastructure. We are not the best in business to attract investments. Above all, we made our govts to give inadequate allocations to capital expenditure (because we spend more on salaries and schemes i.e. revenue expenditure). It is the politics and public who demand higher salaries and uneven sops end up making India a still developing nation. So public here needs to pay 60% taxes on fuel which is highest anywhere in the world.

    We discourage healthy ragging which is both fear & fun. A fresher who cursed their seniors for ragging then would end up doing the same because Seniors will break our inertia of not expressing yourself in front of others. (Thanks to ragging I used to sing for my seniors in buses then now I have my YouTube channel.) 

    Seniors might refer you for a better job after painful pole dance in RTC buses! ( Yes, we used to get ragged in RTC buses :(   Recently, my senior helped a friend to get her 1st job change !) 

    Healthy ragging builds rapport between with seniors which is advantageous for juniors later on. If a junior is told this viewpoint; parents need not panic.

    We hate our bosses at work: An employee who over-worked and was over stressed under a team leader is likely to show the same torture to her/his sub-ordinates because by then she/he knows the responsibility behind leading a team and who knows that delay in submission would cost their team members job?

    We scold our elders for not picking up: Children who scold their outdated parents will have to enjoy the same song from their off springs. It becomes harder to be in-line with latest trends because of generation gap, age related health issues. How can a two-time older parent learn your way doing things? It is great if they do so. At the same, it is not wrong on their part if they fail to undo what they have been doing all these years. Instead of trying to train them, we might just have to just give some space to them. That's the best way to help them out!

    We lack traffic sense: Whenever a four-wheeler takes a U-turn  on a narrow road, two-wheelers completely surround creating more troubles for it and making the traffic jams bigger. While doing this, we seldom think about the people inside. We limit our thoughts to why the hell this car is here/ it's getting late for me. Years will move on. Same two-wheeler faces the brunt once he purchases car !

 To conclude, we are supposed to absorb certain discomforts while we are here. Not all are alike. We don't know what the other person is going through. Try to listen to the other end before concluding (Audi Alteram Partem in judicial terms means no one should be judged before being heard). We need to find what is others way of doing things and cope up with it. One would definitely not want to trouble themselves for the sake of others. But we forget that we also might have to play the same role in the life's later stages and pass through same troubles.

  

Love Story of  Sun and Earth : 

We all know earth loves sun (pull of sun is referred as love here) so it rotates around him. Sun wants to reciprocate his love by lightening up earth. But no matter how much energy the sun emits, at a time he can only light up half of the earth. Whenever the sun understands that earth is elliptical in shape and stuck in an orbit around him doing rounds and rounds around him for millions of years, he will calm down and generate some love for earth, until then it is only heat !